Overcoming Destructive Anger

Emphasizing the importance of making calm, constructive choices and cultivating self-empathy, this guide will free people with destructive anger—and those around them—to live more fulfilling lives.

Author: Bernard Golden

Publisher: JHU Press

ISBN: 1421419750

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 224

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Uncontrolled anger can be devastating, yet many people with serious anger issues don’t know how to change their behavior. In Overcoming Destructive Anger, psychologist Bernard Golden, an anger management specialist, offers concrete tools for turning destructive anger into healthy anger. Dr. Golden draws on both compassion-focused therapy—a model for change that encompasses and expands on cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and practices in compassion and self-compassion—and theories of emotional intelligence. He teaches readers to recognize, sit with, and move beyond the triggers that cause destructive anger. Anger logs and other exercises, together with stories of people who were challenged by anger and able to overcome their outbursts, allow readers to explore the source of their anger and recognize its destructive potential. Emphasizing anger’s link to habits of thinking, feeling, and physical reactions, Dr. Golden offers multiple strategies for coping with current hurts as well as past wounds. And he directs readers to helpful websites, books, and films. Dr. Golden explains why destructive anger happens and how it can contribute to divorce, estranged families, job loss, addictions, and even imprisonment. Emphasizing the importance of making calm, constructive choices and cultivating self-empathy, this guide will free people with destructive anger—and those around them—to live more fulfilling lives.

Deliverance From the Spirit of Destructive Anger

Everyone struggles, to varying degrees, with anger. Thankfully, God's Word
contains principles regarding how to handle anger in a godly manner, and how to
overcome destructive anger. Overcoming the spirit of destructive anger is not ...

Author: Olusegun Festus Remilekun

Publisher: BookRix

ISBN: 3743875667

Category: Religion

Page: 86

View: 718

INTRODUCTIONHandling anger is an important life skill. Christian counselors report that 85 percents of people who come in for counseling have problems dealing with anger. Anger can shatter communication and tear apart relationships, and it ruins both the joy and health of many. Sadly, people tend to justify their anger instead of accepting responsibility for it.Everyone struggles, to varying degrees, with anger. Thankfully, God's Word contains principles regarding how to handle anger in a godly manner, and how to overcome destructive anger. Overcoming the spirit of destructive anger is not accomplished overnight. But through prayer, Bible study, and reliance upon God's Holy Spirit, the spirit of destructive anger can be overcome. We may have allowed anger to become entrenched in our lives by habitual practice, but we can also practice responding correctly until that, too, becomes a habit and God is glorified in our response. If you want the great and mighty things God has for you in life to manifest, you must get to the root of destructive anger and deal with it. Everybody has to deal with anger from time to time. But what's the best way to handle it? To answer that question, we must first understand what destructive anger really is. Destructive anger is an intense emotional response rooted in annoyance, displeasure, indignation, wrath, vengeance, or hostility which is usually irrationally. Ephesians 4:26-27; "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun goes down upon your wrath: Neither gives place to the devil."You must kill destructive anger by prayer!

Everything You Need to Know About Anger Management

Corona Brezina. Golden, Bernard. Overcoming Destructive Anger: Strategies
That Work. Baltimore, MD: Johns Hopkins University Press, 2016. Hammond,
Christine. “19 Things to Do with Anger Other Than Explode.” Psych Central,
December ...

Author: Corona Brezina

Publisher: The Rosen Publishing Group, Inc

ISBN: 1508183406

Category: Juvenile Nonfiction

Page: 64

View: 617

Uncontrollable anger can be a serious problem for young people, damaging relationships with family and friends, affecting mental and physical health, and causing problems at school and work. However, anger doesn't have to be a destructive force. It can be controlled or channeled into constructive outlets. Learning to manage anger in adolescence can serve as a valuable asset for success and happiness later in life. This book provides information and guidance for managing anger, as well as strategies for dealing with anger triggers and improving communication skills. Features such as "Myths and Facts" clarify common misconceptions about anger.

Overcoming Emotions that Destroy

Their message is clear: as we deal with anger, we deal with the primary cause for all destructive emotions. With the help of this useful book, you too can overcome those emotions that destroy. "I loved this book!

Author: Chip Ingram

Publisher: Baker Books

ISBN: 0801072395

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 272

View: 866

With the help of this useful book, you too can overcome those emotions that destroy. --

Overcoming Hurts and Anger

Thus, clinging stubbornly to resentment is very destructive to us because it blocks
God's forgiveness. Ninth, vindictive anger is wrong:The Scriptures clearly teach
that vindictive, malicious anger is wrong. Almost every time the phrase “cease ...

Author: Dwight Carlson

Publisher: Harvest House Publishers

ISBN: 0736949720

Category: Religion

Page: 160

View: 164

With its updated cover, the classic bestseller Overcoming Hurts & Anger (500,000 copies sold) continues to help readers find the love and acceptance they long for by teaching them how to handle strong emotions constructively. God-given emotions help people evaluate and cope with the world around them. But when they’re intense they can be overwhelming and harmful. And often Christians are told to ignore their anger and “be happy.” Packed with real-life illustrations from Dr. Carlson’s counseling practice, Overcoming Hurts & Anger encourages readers as they discover: why feeling angry is normal and acceptable what happens when anger and hurts are mishandled what the Bible really says about anger how to handle strong emotions step-by-step how anger and forgiveness interact In easy-to-understand language, Dwight shows readers how to approach people and circumstances in ways that keep communication open, handle problems as they arise, and keep God’s love, mercy, and grace flowing.

Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship

If anger is poisoning your relationship, this book offers a powerful antidote. Anger expert W. Robert Nay provides clear-cut, practical techniques for responding productively to inappropriate expressions of anger.

Author: W. Robert Nay

Publisher: Guilford Press

ISBN: 9781606236437

Category: Psychology

Page: 259

View: 356

Has your relationship become a battlefield? Does your partner's sarcasm, irritability, or hostility make you wonder where the closeness and trust have gone—and how much more you can take? If anger is poisoning your relationship, this book offers a powerful antidote. Anger expert W. Robert Nay provides clear-cut, practical techniques for responding productively to inappropriate expressions of anger. Learn how anger gains a foothold in a couple's life, why your usual responses may unwittingly reward bad behavior, and how to stand up for yourself in ways that promote lasting change. Self-quizzes and step-by-step suggestions for dealing with different types of angry behavior are illustrated with true-to-life examples. Grounded in psychological science, the strategies in this book are simple yet surprisingly effective. Try them for yourself—and for the person you love. See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and The Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which builds core anger management skills using interactive exercises.

How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything yes Anything

Overcoming Procrastination; Overcoming Resistance; The Practice of Rational
Emotive Behavior Therapy; How to Make ... Feeling Better, Getting Better, Staying
Better; Overcoming Destructive Beliefs, Feelings, and Behaviors; Anger: How to ...

Author: Albert Ellis

Publisher: Kensington Publishing Corp.

ISBN: 0806536535

Category: Self-Help

Page: 224

View: 400

CLASSIC SELF-HELP FROM A RESPECTED PIONEER OF PSYCHOTHERAPY All of us worry about something, big or small, every day. But much of the emotional misery we feel is an overreaction, and it can be significantly reduced, using the techniques you’ll find in this landmark book. World renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, who created Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), believed that anger, anxiety, and depression are not only unnecessary, they’re unethical, because when we allow ourselves to become emotionally upset, we’re being unfair and unjust to ourselves. Thinking negative thoughts is a choice we can refuse to make. Applying the proven, time-tested principles of REBT is a simple, logical way to find true mental health and happiness. REBT acknowledges the power of emotions, but it also helps us understand which feelings are healthy and which are not. This classic book teaches you how to: *Retrain your brain to focus on the positive aspects of your life and face each obstacle without unnecessary despair *Control your emotional destiny *Refuse to upset yourself about upsetting yourself *Solve practical problems as well as emotional problems *Conquer the tyranny of “shoulds” ...and much more, providing all the tools you need to take back your life—and your happiness. If you can refuse to make yourself miserable, you’re that much closer to making yourself happy—every day.

The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern

Anger,. Shame. and. Guilt. This chapter begins with definitions for fear, anger,
shame and guilt. These are states and emotions experienced or defended
against by both the destructive narcissist and those with whom he or she interacts
. Indeed ...

Author: Nina W. Brown

Publisher: Greenwood Publishing Group

ISBN: 9780275960179

Category: Psychology

Page: 185

View: 205

Writing for both mental health professionals and those outside the field who want to better understand destructive narcissism, Brown focuses on developing awareness of destructive narcissism. She provides techniques that help lessen the impact of others' destructive narcissism and examines behavioral manifestations and processes for effecting changes in one's own behavior.

The Anger Management Workbook

Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive
Behavior W. Robert Nay ... Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship soon
followed (2010) as a guide for partners who live with an angry person—who
need to craft ...

Author: W. Robert Nay

Publisher: Guilford Publications

ISBN: 1462509770

Category: Psychology

Page: 286

View: 959

Out-of-control anger can destroy relationships, reputations, careers--even your health. But Dr. Robert Nay knows from extensive clinical experience that nearly anyone can learn to manage anger constructively--with enough practice. That's where this skillfully crafted workbook comes in. Using step-by-step learning exercises based on state-of-the-art knowledge about how the brain works, you can break old habits and replace them with more productive new ones. Dr. Nay's breakthrough STOP Method (Stop, Think, Objectify, and Plan) helps you: *Understand how anger flares up in your brain and body--and how you can lower the heat. *Identify the fleeting yet powerful thoughts that fuel destructive anger. *Replace aggression with appropriate assertiveness. *Effectively communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs. *Defuse conflicts and find "win-win" solutions. *See how the strategies are applied in a wealth of realistic scenarios. While working through the book's simple checklists and fill-in-the-blank forms (you can download and print additional copies as needed), you'll be building real skills to apply in everyday life. When anger gets in the way of your personal goals, this book provides a blueprint for change. See also Dr. Nay's "Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition," which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and "Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences."

Freedom from Addiction

The Chopra Center Method for Overcoming Destructive Habits Deepak Chopra,
David Simon. 15. Experiencing Anger and Rage Boundary violations mobilize
reactions. In the attempt to reestablish healthy boundaries, anger may play an ...

Author: Deepak Chopra

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 0757398766

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

View: 482

Millions of people have embarked on a Twelve-Step Program, whether it’s Alcoholics Anonymous, Nicotine Anonymous, or Alateen. However, there are millions of others who are unable or unwilling to accept these programs because of religious overtones or a rigid approach to recovery. Deepak Chopra and David Simon contend that Twelve-Step methods don’t work for everyone because they emphasize personal powerlessness; it’s this admission of powerlessness that keeps many people from ever truly healing. In Freedom from Addiction, Chopra and Simon offer a new way—a proven method based on the program at the renowned Chopra Center in Carlsbad, California. Combining the best of eastern and western medicine, they teach readers how to cleanse their bodies and minds through nutrition, supplements, and meditations, and they walk readers through their 7-Step Framework: 1. Commit to transformation 2. Commit to ending repeat mistakes 3. Face the harsh reality of the past 4. See the infinite possibilities available in the present moment 5. Envision where you want to be 6. Ask yourself what choices need to be made to actualize vision 7. Create an action plan

Managing Intense Emotions and Overcoming Self Destructive Habits

Adults diagnosed with ADHD and people with BPD may share the following:
impulsivity, rapid mood changes, and a low frustration and anger threshold (
Wender et al., 1981; Tzelepis et al., 1995). However, ADHD sufferers have
problems with ...

Author: Lorraine Bell

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 113544479X

Category: Psychology

Page: 240

View: 595

What is borderline personality disorder and what can people with borderline problems do to help themselves? The treatment of personality disorder is a major concern facing current mental health services. Specialist therapies are often not available and many people with these problems drop out of treatment. Managing Intense Emotions and Overcoming Self-Destructive Habits is a self-help manual for people who would meet the diagnosis of 'emotionally unstable' or 'borderline personality disorder' (BPD), outlining a brief intervention which is based on a model of treatment known to be effective for other conditions, such as anxiety, depression and bulimia. The manual describes the problem areas, the skills needed to overcome them and how these skills can be developed. It is designed to be used with the help of professional mental health staff, ideally in a group with individual sessions to support and coach the person in the application of the skills taught. A minimum of 24 and maximum of 36 sessions are recommended. Areas covered include: * the condition and controversy surrounding the diagnosis of BPD * drug and alcohol misuse * emotional dysregulation and the role of thinking habits and beliefs * depression and difficult mood states * childhood abuse and relationship difficulties * anger management. Borderline personality disorder is a complex and challenging condition. This manual aims to explain the problems experienced by people who may be given this diagnosis in a way that clients and staff can easily understand. It will be essential reading for people with BPD and professionals involved in their care - psychologists, psychiatric nurses, psychiatrists and occupational therapists.

Overcoming Anger

Develop strategies to express your anger in a helpful way

Author: Windy Dryden


ISBN: 9780859697132

Category: Self-Help

Page: 102

View: 808

Develop strategies to express your anger in a helpful way

To the Overcomer

you but to help you realize a weak area, so you can be made ... CHAPTER FIVE
OVERCOMING ANGER The New International Webster's Concise Dictionary. 30.

Author: Nellie Looper

Publisher: Xlibris Corporation

ISBN: 1465327711

Category: Self-Help

Page: 51

View: 368

Looking at yourself through Gods eyes is like looking in a mirror. The first time I looked in Gods mirror I hated what I saw about myself. One thing about taking that long hard look at yourself, it will make you pray. I am so grateful to God for allowing me to go through what I call the Overcoming Process. I had buried unforgivness and hurt so deep in my spirit that it took many experiences and Godly revelation to be able to understand why my life had taken some of the turns it had. Through prayer and Gods merciful long suffering I can now be proud of my reflection in Gods mirror. I know now that my image is the reflection of His love for me.

Leading Teams with Integrity

doubt and avoid being overcome by destructive anger. When you believe that
your partner and friend shares your values, you can discuss and jointly recommit
to your vision and goals for your business. You forgive, and then you move on.

Author: Stedman Graham

Publisher: FT Press

ISBN: 0133087182

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 1200

View: 169

Know who you are and what you stand for—and use that knowledge to become a truly great leader! Four great books help you become a more focused, honorable, successful leader! In Identity: Your Passport to Success, Stedman Graham reveals why success in life flows from establishing your authentic identity: first, within yourself, and then outside, in the world. Graham provides a working definition of identity, shares powerful insights about why it’s so important, offers a process and structure for your own journey, and introduces his patented 9 Step Plan for SuccessTM. In Leading at a Higher Level, Revised and Expanded Edition, the legendary Ken Blanchard and his colleagues bring together everything they’ve learned about world-class leadership. Discover how to create targets and visions based on the “triple bottom line,” and make sure people know who you are, where you’re going, and the values that will guide your journey. In Winners Never Cheat, Jon M. Huntsman shows how to succeed at the top, without sacrificing principles that make life worth living. Huntsman personally built a $12 billion company from scratch, the old-fashioned way: with integrity. Now, he tells you how he did it, and how you can, too. Finally, in Moral Intelligence 2.0, Doug Lennick and Fred Kiel demonstrate why sustainable optimal business performance requires superior moral and emotional competencies. Using new case studies, they identify connections between moral intelligence and higher levels of trust, engagement, retention, and innovation. Readers will find specific guidance on moral leadership in both large organizations and entrepreneurial ventures, plus a new step-by-step plan for measuring and strengthening organizational integrity, responsibility, compassion, forgiveness, and more. From world-renowned experts in team building and team leadership, including Stedman Graham, Ken Blanchard, Jon M. Huntsman, Doug Lennick, and Fred Kiel

Anger Related Disorders

Buddhist teachings recognize anger as one of the three great destructive fires,
along with greed and delusion, as the ... The wisdom of Buddhism is that
suffering is universal but that it can be overcome by curbing selfish desire
through the ...

Author: Eva Feindler, PhD

Publisher: Springer Publishing Company

ISBN: 9780826140470

Category: Psychology

Page: 400

View: 784

In this ground-breaking exploration, a glittering array of specialists investigate how and why anger is viewed as a secondary emotion by most clinical theories and practitioners and seeks to answer the following questions: What are anger-related disorders? What do they have in common and how are they different? How do we treat the various anger-related disorders? Drawing on one case study, the top-notch contributors each present a different method of treatment for anger-related disorders. By taking into consideration the variety of perspectives and treatments available for anger-related disorders, this book provides an overview of how clinicians can implement each of these treatments as well as combine treatments to provide a tailored therapy for each individual client.

Grace for the Injured Self

Destructive anger results not from our biology but from non-empathic
environments that have fostered injured selves. ... of object-libidinal strivings and
in overcoming obstacles of independently experienced competitors or other

Author: Terry D. Cooper

Publisher: Wipf and Stock Publishers

ISBN: 1630876232

Category: Religion

Page: 178

View: 437

Even under the best circumstances in life, we all suffer psychological injuries to our self. These injuries from others can range from passive hurtful comments to intentional abusive assaults. The end result is that our sense of being a cohesive and secure self is threatened. We may begin to experience degrees of vulnerability and self-doubts, or of rage and desire for revenge. We may even feel as if we were "falling apart." In all cases these self-injuries chip away at our self-cohesion and self-esteem. Grace for the Injured Self helps us to better understand the significance of these injuries to our self, as well as how these injuries can be healed through the self psychology approach of Heinz Kohut. Throughout its pages, this book emphasizes the empathic presence of another as a source of grace. Empathy is the most powerful means by which the self is reassured, strengthened, and ultimately restored. It is this empathic responsiveness of others that holds our self together and helps us daily maintain our self-cohesion and self-esteem. The self psychology perspective of Heinz Kohut, who many consider the most significant psychoanalyst since Sigmund Freud, is made available here as a primary means by which clergy and other helping professionals can provide a healing context for the restoration of injured selves.

Through the Flames

That is the keyto overcoming the destructive powerof angerfor both genders. We
start with awareness. We learnto recognize thefeeling of anger asit arises, and
thenwe mindfully createapause between that feeling and any ensuing actions.

Author: Allan Lokos

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 0698170954

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 272

View: 493

After miraculously surviving a plane crash in Myanmar, Allan Lokos shares what his long and painful recovery process is teaching him about humanity’s ability to survive—and even thrive—in the face of suffering. In Through the Flames, Allan Lokos tells the terrifying story of being on board a plane on Christmas Day with his wife, Susanna, when it crashed and exploded in flames. Lokos was severely burned in the accident, and in the days and weeks following the crash, Susanna was told by the many doctors who examined Lokos that he would not survive. As founder and guiding teacher of the Community Meditation Center in New York City, Lokos had spent decades cultivating compassion and non-attachment. Since the plane crash, his Buddhist practice has been mightily tested. In this inspiring account of his against-all-odds recovery, Lokos uses his experience as a window through which to examine the challenge of human suffering in general and addresses the question of how we can thrive in the midst of pain and uncertainty.

Overcoming Loss

Anger at society , fate , God , and yourself for being imperfect . en Anger because
life just isn't fair . Take some time to admit your anger and permit yourself to
express it . Anger suppressed stays unresolved and is self - destructive . Anger ...

Author: Rita Freedman

Publisher: Peter Pauper Press

ISBN: 9780880880947

Category: Self-Help

Page: 64

View: 181

Overcoming Memory Problems

Certainly , it is true that during her outburst , Val had lost that crucial ability to
distinguish between anger at the victim and anger at the dementia . ... Anger As
we ' ve just seen , anger goes hand in hand with guilt and can be just as
destructive .

Author: Robert Erdmann

Publisher: HarperThorsons

ISBN: 9780722519615

Category: Memory

Page: 125

View: 883

Healing Anger

... Shantideva identifies two key elements in our attempts to overcome anger .
First and foremost , it is important for us to have a profound appreciation of the
negativity of anger . Of particular relevance is to reflect upon the destructive
effects of ...

Author: Dalai Lama XIV Bstan-ʼdzin-rgya-mtsho

Publisher: Motilal Banarsidass Publishe

ISBN: 9788120815155

Category: Buddhism

Page: 149

View: 821

In this book the Dalai Lama shows how through the practice of patience and tolerance we can overcome the obstacles of anger and hatred. He bases his discussion on A Guide to the Bodhisattva`s Way of Life, the classic work on the activities of Bodhisattvas--those who aspire to attain full enlightenment in order to bengit all beings.The techniques and methods presented are relevant not only for Buddhist practitioners but for all who seek to improve themselves. Through these teachings and by his own example, the Dalai Lama shows the power that patience and tolerance have to heal anger and to generate peace in the world.