The Dance of Anger

For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062328522

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

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The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception. "Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

The Dance of Anger

Focussing largely on family relationships, the book shows women how to deal with many different relationship issues. The book has meaning for all women, regardless of age, background or experience.

Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

Publisher: HarperCollins UK

ISBN: 0722536232

Category: Anger

Page: 239

View: 852

A fresh new jacket design brings this classic self-help guide up to date for a contemporary readership. One of the forerunners to today's pop psych market along with Women Who Love Too Much, this multimillion bestseller shows us how anger affects women's relationships and explains how to turn this often destructive force into a constructive one.

The Dance of Intimacy

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks

ISBN: 9780060916466

Category: Psychology

Page: 272

View: 436

In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter.

The Dance of Deception

An exploration of the role of pretending and truth-telling in women's lives discusses the difference between privacy and secrecy, how women are encouraged to pretend, and how pretending prevents a deeper intimacy.

Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner



Category: Deception

Page: 254

View: 467

An exploration of the role of pretending and truth-telling in women's lives discusses the difference between privacy and secrecy, how women are encouraged to pretend, and how pretending prevents a deeper intimacy.

Handbook of Anger Management

In the 1980s, for instance, popular books such as Harriet Lerner's The Dance of
Anger (1985) emphasized the need for people, and in particular women, to
accept the reality of their anger and to use it appropriately instead of “stuffing” it.
Gestalt ...

Author: Ron Potter-Efron

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1136781552

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 300

View: 874

Get the most from your ability to work with clients suffering the effects of chronic anger The Handbook of Anger Management provides therapists and counselors with a comprehensive review of anger and aggression management techniques, presenting specific guidelines to a number of immediately useful methods. Clinical psychotherapist Ronald T. Potter-Efron, Director of the Anger Management Center At First Things First, LTD, in Eau Claire, Wisconsin, offers straightforward solutions to the complicated problem of anger, detailing core treatment options and intervention methods that meet the needs of individual clients, couples, families, and groups. This practical guidebook examines rage, aggression, hostility, resentment, hatred, anger avoidance, and chronic anger and includes fact-based case studies that illustrate effective theory and practice. The Handbook of Anger Management guides therapists through the process of assessing anger in their clients, determining the reasons for—and the consequences of—anger and aggression. The book examines individual and group modalities, using behavioral, cognitive, affective, and existential/spiritual treatment approaches to define anger and anger problems and how they relate to social learning, to examine the relationship between anger and aggression and between anger and domestic violence, and to address the concept of “healthy anger.” The Handbook of Anger Management examines: four major intervention areas that can help lessen anger the pros and cons of group versus individual counseling treating angry children, adolescents, and families how patterns of resentment and hatred are developed self-forgiveness five damaging aspects of anger turned inward the neurological aspects of anger and much more! The Handbook of Anger Management is an essential guidebook for psychologists, social workers, anger management therapists, and domestic abuse counselors, and for academics working in mental health fields.

The Dance of Connection

Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships.

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 9780061851834

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 272

View: 349

Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.

The Artistry of Anger

Averill, Anger and Aggression, 248, 317–22; Diamond, Anger, Madness and the
Daimonic, 15; Lerner, Dance of Anger, 1; Lyman, ''Politics of Anger,''61; Jean
Baker Miller, ''Construction of Anger in Women and Men,'' 188–89; Jean Baker ...

Author: Linda M. Grasso

Publisher: Univ of North Carolina Press

ISBN: 0807860190

Category: Literary Criticism

Page: 264

View: 318

In this compelling interdisciplinary study, Linda Grasso demonstrates that using anger as a mode of analysis and the basis of an aesthetic transforms our understanding of American women's literary history. Exploring how black and white nineteenth-century women writers defined, expressed, and dramatized anger, Grasso reconceptualizes antebellum women's writing and illuminates an unrecognized tradition of discontent in American literature. She maintains that two equally powerful forces shaped this tradition: women's anger at their exclusion from the democratic promise of America, and the cultural prohibition against its public articulation. Grasso challenges the common notion that nineteenth-century women's writing is confined to domestic themes and shows instead how women channeled their anger into art that addresses complex political issues such as slavery, nation-building, gender arrangements, and race relations. Cutting across racial and genre boundaries, she considers works by Lydia Maria Child, Maria W. Stewart, Fanny Fern, and Harriet Wilson as superb examples of the artistry of angry expression. Transforming their anger through literary imagination, these writers bequeathed their vision of an alternative America both to their contemporaries and to subsequent generations.

The Dance of Fear

Gradually Mary found that when she thought of Jeff, she no longer felt a knee-jerk
surge of rage. ... I don't mean to imply that we hold on to our anger because we
consciously want to show the other person how totally she or he has screwed up

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0061983713

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

View: 879

Unhappiness, says bestselling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hits, they may become our constant companions. Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn: how a man was "cured in a day" of the fear of rejection -- and what we can learn from his story how the author overcame her dread of public speaking when her worst fears were realized how to deal with the fear of not being good enough, and with the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate how to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace how to manage fear and despair when life sends a crash course in illness, vulnerability, and loss how "positive thinking" helps -- and harms how to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified and have internalized the shaming messages of others No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can’t avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.

The Dance of Words

... always knowing where and how you are, striving to avoid the dangerous paths
where many self-destructive brothers gather full of anger, to dance with horrible
plights lurking like Kimono dragons, ready to create drive-bys and fly—bys even ...

Author: K.G. Bell

Publisher: Xlibris Corporation

ISBN: 1462830382

Category: Poetry

Page: 447

View: 560

This book of Epic poems gives meaning to every moment of our living as it uses language to meander through ideas and philosophies of peoples and cultures, effecting behaviors, visions and changes. The Dance of Words, written with fire, reminds its readers of a time when integrity, honor and love were in flower, and lost moments of mankinds existence come vividly alive, with dramatic accounts of modern life, history, myths and fantasy. The Poems emerge with power and passion showing the values that impact upon human development and forces us to look deeply into our humanity in order to embrace fully this Blast of Light called life.

Self Help That Works

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate
Relationships (reissue ed., 1997) by Harriet Lerner. New York: Harper Perennial.
This popular and prized book was written mainly for women about the anger in
their ...

Author: John C. Norcross Ph.D.

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN: 019932364X

Category: Psychology

Page: 624

View: 823

Self-help is big business, but alas, not always a scientific one. Self-help books, websites, and movies abound and are important sources of psychological advice for millions of Americans. But how can you sift through them to find the ones that work? Self-Help That Works is an indispensable guide that enables readers to identify effective self-help materials and distinguish them from those that are potentially misleading or even harmful. Six scientist-practitioners bring careful research, expertise, and a dozen national studies to the task of choosing and recommending self-help resources. Designed for both laypersons and mental-health professionals, this book critically reviews multiple types of self-help resources, from books and autobiographies to films, online programs, support groups, and websites, for 41 different behavioral disorders and life challenges. The revised edition of this award-winning book now features online self-help resources, expanded content, and new chapters focusing on autism, bullying, chronic pain, GLB issues, happiness, and nonchemical addictions. Each chapter updates the self-help resources launched since the previous edition and expands the material. The final chapters provide key strategies for consumers evaluating self-help as well as for professionals integrating self-help into treatment. All told, this updated edition of Self-Help that Works evaluates more than 2,000 self-help resources and brings together the collective wisdom of nearly 5,000 mental health professionals. Whether seeking self-help for yourself, loved ones, or patients, this is the go-to, research-based guide with the best advice on what works.

Shame and Anger

Sometimes shame is a reaction to the blast of anger by the suffering partner in
response to his own loss, shame, and grief. The dance of shame and anger
shared by a couple when one is disabled by illness or injury is not orchestrated
for ...

Author: Brock Hansen


ISBN: 0615135811

Category: Self-Help

Page: 228

View: 773

Our powerful reactions to receiving criticism are linked to the innate emotions of shame and anger. Evolved for survival in primitive circumstances, these sometimes overwhelming reactions do not always serve us well in civilized situations. Extreme reactions to real or perceived criticism can lead to serious psychological illnesses such as depression, addiction and eating disorders. This book gives the reader an understanding of the evolutionary function of shame and anger and the destructive ways in which they can manifest themselves in criticism situations. To help with this problem, the author describes techniques as old as yoga and as new as neurofeedback for quieting powerful emotions and becoming more confident in the face of criticism. These techniques can be used by adults and taught to children to help avoid many of the painful and destructive emotional experiences that shape our self-image and often set the stage for depression and other emotional disorders.

Marriage Rules

Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight ...

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1101554215

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 288

View: 543

Following a unique format perfect for today's world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight and fight fair Listen well as a spiritual practice Connect with a distant partner Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness Know how and when to draw the line Take back your marriage when things fall apart Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that's required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.

Handbook of Anger Management and Domestic Violence Offender Treatment

Thetopic ofanger turned inward isa relatively neglected areain today«s anger
management field.That was not alwaysthe situation, however. Inthe 1980s,for
instance, popular books like Harriet Lerner«s Dance of Anger (1997)
emphasized the ...

Author: Ron Potter-Efron

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1317975820

Category: Psychology

Page: 260

View: 975

Ronald T. Potter-Efron consciously connects anger management and domestic violence, two long separated fields, and addresses treatment options and intervention methods that meet the needs of individual clients, couples, families, and groups. Therapists, counselors, social workers, and other treatment specialists will find this book a useful overview and reference for anger and anger management techniques as well as domestic violence approaches. This new edition is split into four distinct sections: • A description of anger and domestic violence focused upon helping clients use the principles of neuroplasticity to dramatically alter their behavior • Assessment for anger problems and/or domestic violence • Group treatment for individuals with anger problems and/or domestic violence • Individual, couples, and family treatment of these concerns. Woven through this book is a fair and balanced treatment of gender issues, reflected in the diversity of case examples that address jealousy, chronic anger, behavioral problems, group and individual counseling, and more. Readers are also shown how anger develops and can lead to verbal and physical outbursts, the five types of rage reactions, and how to treat anger turned inward. Potter-Efron also details four different approaches to treating anger: behavioral, cognitive, affective, and existential/spiritual. Mental health professionals are provided numerous questionnaires and worksheets to utilize with their clients. Handbook of Anger Management and Domestic Violence Offender Treatment is an essential guidebook that illustrates effective theory and practice.

Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship

Anger. is. pulling. YOur. strings. think about a dance you know how to do. Maybe
you learned the waltz or the two-step at a junior high dance class or recently took
some salsa lessons with a friend. at first it probably felt like you and your partner ...

Author: W. Robert Nay

Publisher: Guilford Press

ISBN: 9781606236437

Category: Psychology

Page: 259

View: 727

Has your relationship become a battlefield? Does your partner's sarcasm, irritability, or hostility make you wonder where the closeness and trust have gone—and how much more you can take? If anger is poisoning your relationship, this book offers a powerful antidote. Anger expert W. Robert Nay provides clear-cut, practical techniques for responding productively to inappropriate expressions of anger. Learn how anger gains a foothold in a couple's life, why your usual responses may unwittingly reward bad behavior, and how to stand up for yourself in ways that promote lasting change. Self-quizzes and step-by-step suggestions for dealing with different types of angry behavior are illustrated with true-to-life examples. Grounded in psychological science, the strategies in this book are simple yet surprisingly effective. Try them for yourself—and for the person you love. See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and The Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which builds core anger management skills using interactive exercises.

The Task Planner

Therapeutic interventions are indicated when anger is expressed inappropriately
in terms of frequency, intensity, mode of expression, ... For women particularly,
The Dance of Anger: The Language of Feelings (Lerner 1985) is recommended.

Author: William J. Reid

Publisher: Columbia University Press

ISBN: 0231506198

Category: Social Science

Page: 320

View: 126

A comprehensive, A-to-Z set of task planners for more than one hundred psychosocial problems from alcoholism and anxiety to domestic violence and sexual abuse. Each entry includes a menu of actions the client can undertake to affect resolution, a guide to the practitioner's role in facilitating these actions, and a reference list. An accompanying disk allows social workers to update the task planners they are working with and enables keyword searches for specific topics.

The Dance of Time

Those words, too, brought a reflex of anger. But, as she forced her way through
the mob toward the military hospital, Anna found herself thinking about them. And
eventually came to realize two things. One. Although she was a voracious reader

Author: Eric Flint

Publisher: Baen Books

ISBN: 1416509313

Category: Fiction

Page: 468

View: 746

Armed with a mystical jewel from the future, Belisarius, the greatest general of his age, musters the forces of humankind against the evil Malwa, who are ruled by a monster from the future that is part demon and part computer, as they prepare of the epic final confrontation between good and evil, with the fate of the entire world at stake.

Stand Like Mountain Flow Like Water

To harbor feelings of unresolved anger when desires are not met, however,
becomes a control issue; we are at the ... In her book, The Dance of Anger, author
Harriet Lerner highlights the social mores that have denied women the ability to
feel ...

Author: Brian Luke Seaward

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0757305474

Category: Body, Mind & Spirit

Page: 348

View: 458

Simple yet powerful exercises to help readers identify and deal with stressors are outlined in a guide on how to establish and/or maintain sacred rituals in one's life, live their joy, and get in touch with their true selves. Original. 25,000 first printing.

Father Hunger

Unexpressed rage comes out in many ways, contributing to depression, illness,
and marital problems. ... Harriet Lerner's masterful book The Dance of Anger: A
Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships shows how ...

Author: Margo Maine, Ph.D.

Publisher: Gurze Books

ISBN: 9780936077581

Category: Psychology

Page: 288

View: 413

"Father Hunger" is the emptiness experienced by women whose fathers were physically or emotionally absent—a void that leads to unrealistic body image, yo-yo dieting, food fears and disordered eating patterns. The term, which is now part of the psychology lexicon, originated with the first edition of this work in 1991. After having completed a decade's worth of further investigation, Dr. Maine has updated the information about men and their daughters in this second edition. She offers a new crash course on being a girl in today's culture, based on her expertise as a leading eating disorders prevention advocate. This edition describes the origins of father hunger and its effect on the family, with even more practical solutions to help fathers and daughters understand and improve their relationships. Also included is an expanded section for educators and therapists to help them more effectively prevent and treat the problems that occur between dads and daughters.

Reflections on Anger

(Lazarus 1991) Understanding our emotional selves, especially in regard to
potentially negative emotions such as anger, is increasingly seen as an important
endeavor. Several recent books, such as Harriet Lemer's The Dance of Anger ...

Author: Christa Reiser

Publisher: Greenwood Publishing Group

ISBN: 9780275957773

Category: Psychology

Page: 156

View: 902

Insights into men's and women's anger experiences, sources and extent of gender-based anger, feelings about recent gender role changes, and thoughts on improving gender relationships.

Dancing Revelations

The dance that brought Ailey out of choreographic hibernation for his own
company fulfilled a lucrative commission from ... In a scene demonstrating rage,
the crowd of dancing bohemians taunt each other and the camera, then perform ...

Author: Thomas F. DeFrantz

Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA

ISBN: 9780195301717

Category: Music

Page: 300

View: 846

He also addresses concerns about how dance performance is documented, including issues around spectatorship and the display of sexuality, the relationship of Ailey's dances to civil rights activism, and the establishment and maintenance of a successful, large-scale Black Arts institution."--Jacket.